I smoked cigarettes for over 20 years. At the time, I didn't realize they could actually weaken your bladder. The worst part of having to wear diapers as an adult is that whenever you are working or just going out, you always have to carry a bag with you to the restroom. Plus, with bowel incontinence the smell can be embarrassing at times.
I've come to accept my incontinence, and even tell people about it if they ask. I’m not afraid to let people know, because it becomes part of your life, just like anything does. Being a single widowed father to a special needs child has also helped me cope and deal with my disability. I know that it can happen at any age. Just be confident in who you are, accept the change, and live your life.